Josh Strodtbeck of the Boar's Head Tavern writes:
I've noticed that the word "gay" has become abstracted from sexual practice. Sure, the connotation is there if you dig for it (no pun intended), but I highly doubt that guy [an Episcopalian priest who said he was proud of his son for being gay] would have said "My son really enjoys taking a _____ in the ______ from another man, and I'm proud of that." It's not like you find people running around saying "My daughter's really into group sex, and I celebrate that," or "I am so proud that my son has centered his life around BDSM," or "My teenager is addicted to porn and m*********s 6 times a day, and I'm proud of that," or "My kids moved to West Virginia so they could engage in incest without repercussions, and I'm proud of that," or "My daughter gets freaky with the family dog, and I just want to tell the world about how brave she is," or "My wife and I really like the position on page 3 of the Kama Sutra manual, so we're organizing a Page 3 Pride Rally!"It's like "gay" somehow means something quite other than having a sexual desire and indulging it, or that gay sex is somehow incidental to homosexuality rather than foundational. After all, it's not like I could go to an ECUSA church and get them to perform a little rite blessing the close friendship I have with my former roommate from college.
A few posts later Michael questions why Christians against homosexuality are portrayed as "haters". That kind of garbage is why, Michael. When people misrepresent my sexuality by equating it with "incest without repercussions", "group sex" and "getting freaky with the family dog", I call it hatred and bigotry, whether they realize it or not.
On a related note, check out this touching photo-essay contrasting conservative myths about homosexuality with the real life of a gay couple. Hat-tip to Peterson Toscano, who also reports this week that Zach is coming home from ex-gay camp.
UPDATE: Let me clarify what Michael Spencer said, since it may have looked (to Michael at least) like I was implicating him in Josh's comments. Here are his full comments, to give an idea what I meant when I said he was questioning why conservative Christians were portrayed as haters:
Compassion for homosexuals as fellow sinners won't do. You have to celebrate it all, and having some kind of conversion to support of the whole agenda is the new revivalism of the left. What evangelicals have to do is articulate the Biblical view on sexuality, but with a lot of humility. And then we simply have to accept that we can't get into those discussions, because they immediately turn the tables and ask "Are you still a gay-hating, bigot who wants to torture gays in eternal flames and deny them all rights in the here and now?" Frankly, I think we've lost a whole generation on this issue. We've been painted as saying gays are bad people, and the media has convinced young people that's a lie. Then the coopting of a lot of Christian vocabulary by the mainstream culture has made those embracing the homosexual agenda into the "loving" and "compassionate" people, and Christians into the haters. Plus, we're mad all the time, and just lose all restraint when talking about the issue.
Of course I take big issue with a lot of that, but I can see he wasn't supporting Josh's comments.